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Cellulite and Self-Talk

A new friend of mine, Debe, sent my Push Me Higher story to her sister, Melody and this is the feedback she got. I loved the sister’s honesty and related to her response because I have felt the same way at times. That’s why I had to address this…

Melody’s Feedback:
Beautifully written.  Very touching.  Deeply insightful.  What I didn't say is WELL, if it isn't Linda who not only is a conference speaker with great biblical knowledge, but she can write as perfectly as she speaks and thus is published and her children are not only perfectly educated but perfectly raised and leading perfectly admirable lives thus validating the fact that they had a perfect mother.  I can find absolutely nothing to sneer at and I am therefore highly incensed.  It is good that I didn't say any of that, huh?

I hear the tongue in cheek in Melody’s voice, but I so had to respond to this because of all the times I resonated with her feelings when I heard some lady’s story or saw her share at a women’s event. I have to set the record straight by saying that I am irritatingly imperfect in every one of the areas mentioned above.

What this lady doesn’t know is all the times I screamed at my poor kids until my neck veins bulged, and my innocent children would scurry off to hide in their bedrooms waiting for the Mommy Dragon to spew fire again. Or all the times I stressed out about work and failed to be present in my presence with them. She doesn’t know all the tearful apologies I had to make to my kids or all of the incessant insecurity I felt practically the entire time I spent raising them worrying about the job I was doing.

Now I fight that same insecurity daily with regards to my writing. Not all of us can craft a sentence like Max Lucado and since Beth Moore has cornered the Bible Study market and Joyce Meyer has a huge audience, who’s going to care what I have to say??? But I keep going because God won’t let me quit!

Every one of us has cellulite and lousy self-talk…no matter what we see on the screen, read in tabloids or hear from others. I had to use cellulite as an example because of all the perfect pictures we look at, only to walk away with self-loathing because we don’t measure up. Super models even feel this way, just ask Cindy Crawford.

So Darlin’, if you’re going to feel second-rate, please don’t waste any energy feeling second rate to me because I have as much cellulite and stinkin’ thinkin’ as you do! And I know we aren’t alone. Most of the mothers reading this would agree. So let’s pat ourselves on the back for doing the best we can and realize we’re fortunate that God loves us warts and all…or should I say cellulite and all!

Comments

May 22, 2013 @11:03 am

I can so relate LInda...thanks for sharing!

Connie
May 16, 2013 @10:11 pm

No one who knows you would ever doubt your good heart, your love of God and your fellow man (women). Any lesson you teach comes from a difficult experience and though you have been blessed, you never take it for granted. Keep being the light that you are.

Dottie
May 16, 2013 @05:48 am

Thank you Linda for being so real. Bet I have more warts than you do!! :)

Gail
May 15, 2013 @11:01 am

What a perfect way to start my day. This was exactly what I needed to read today. After hearing a speaker this weekend and how she prayed for her daughter and had the perfect scripture to share in her daughters time of need I began to question myself. Why can't I have perfect kids, perfect husband and perfect ministry. I was crying in my soup. Maybe I have committed some sin that I have not confessed. Maybe God doesn't love me as much as He loves them. So nice to hear I am not the only one who feels these things. I think this is another lesson in Perseverance. I am trying to press in and keep on keeping on. God is always faithful, I tend to fail miserably, but He loves me anyway. Thanks for sharing this with us. Blessings, Danise

Danise Dick
May 15, 2013 @10:43 am

Melody, I love your sense of humor, and I appreciate you candor. It helps us all feel understood when we find ourselves reacting the same way. Thanks for sharing. I'm putting you on my mailing list so we can hear more from you:)

Linda
May 15, 2013 @10:40 am

Dear Linda, I am Debe Pevnev's housebound sister who sent the sassy email. I am so pleased you understood it was truly meant in fun and I know that NONE of us ever feels as though we have arrived. Just a note regarding the format beginning 'WELL, if it isn't...." There was a Christian cartoon with 2 men on a camel, each camel with a sticker on it's back. The first stated 'My Child is in the Olympics, the second "My Child is in medical school"; the men look over at the 3rd camel and one guy sneers "WELL, if it isn't Joseph and Mary"...their 'camel sticker' read: Our Child is God". I thought it was a hoot. I hope that sounds a little more fun and less peevish! Looking forward to hearing you speak!

Melody
 

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